Weekly Saga 003: 11/08-11/15

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Still have some changes to make. I think I’m going to rearrange a few sections, maybe add an additional one, which will make the graphic larger than a standard page, but I feel like certain areas are too cramped and I can’t figure out a way to fix it without more space.

Well… less information would work too, but I’m not going to take anything out. If anything, I’ll put more stuff in.

The next step in this project would be to complete the rearranging and then keep on with creating the icon graphics I want to use. It’s been some serious fun working on this template though. : 3

I suppose I’ll need to make one for the monthly recaps I want to get back into as well… That’s a thought for another time though.

 

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Daily Post 039:To-Do List 1, Jen 0

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So this morning Zane was super grouchy again. He said that even though he knows that he slept, it didn’t really feel like it. He woke up tired, sort of a thing. He had a mini blow up at me this morning, but again, since I’ve been there I totally don’t blame him for it.

 

I told him why his comments hurt, but I didn’t take it personally. After he got to work he sent me a text message apologizing. He also said he was going to have alone time tonight and go to sleep early.

 

I actually went back to sleep until 9ish. Once I got up I started putting the room back together. I like the new setup. It feels like there’s more space. That took most of the morning though. I had already decided not to go to the gym since I have training with Terri tomorrow morning. I wanted to give my muscles as much of a rest as they could get.

 

I biked to school which was an ordeal. There was a nice breeze as I was walking down the apartment stairs. It felt so nice out with a cool autumn sun in the sky. Little did I know… that slight breeze was going to be my enemy.

 

Biking to work felt like trying to run through chest deep water. It reminded me of Gandalf in the first Lord of the Rings movie.

 

“You shall not pass!”

 

Seriously, it felt like I was getting nowhere even though my legs were burning so much. Stupid breeze! No one wants you!

 

That was really the only draw back to the ride. Other than that it was great. I had a tuna lunch in the break room. One of my co-workers started chatting me up about the bike, so we went out and I showed him what I’m riding. I guess he rides fairly often too and mentioned biking together some time. That could be cool. Even better if we could get Frank in on it. I’m not sure how long I would last though. And now that I think about it. I’m not sure I really want to bike with other people. I like being alone and doing my own thing and not having to worry about pacing myself to match someone.

 

I dunno. We’ll see.

 

I didn’t take my computer with me to school. I didn’t want the extra weight, and man… am I glad for that decision. I did take my cross stitch though. I spent a majority of the first hour cleaning up my notebook from the previous week. I also spend a fair amount of time talking to Luis about the certification test. He’s still interested in taking it.

 

After that I completed the last bit of work for Clavan’s gift. Huzzah! I wanted to use my phone for music, but it was close to dying and I wanted music on my trip home more, so I sat with headphones in listening to silence because I’m like that.

 

David covered the second lab for me so I could go to a new group meeting. It’s a woman’s group for the females students at the school. I wanted to help support it, and since Robin is one of the main members I was hoping I would get to see her.

 

The meeting wasn’t until 6, though, which meant I had two hours to kill. I had a bowl of soup from Crisper’s, then went over to the building the meeting was going to be at. I was an hour early, but I figured I could sit in the lobby and wait.

 

The meeting ran way later than I thought it would. There were snacks, so I had a few apple slices before heading back to my bike to go home. I was able to use the light tonight and I absolutely love it. Being able to see while I’m riding makes the trip home so much better. I’m totally ok with the investment.

 

I was super hungry when I got home. I feel like I devoured my salad. I also had a container of soup with two pieces of toast torn up and mixed in. I’m still trying to drink water because I’m pretty sure I’m behind on my intake.

 

I still have a ton of stuff on my to-do list. Thing I had thought I would have energy and time to do. But it’s already 10:30, and I’m exhausted. So nothing else is going to get done. Not the dishes, not the car stuff. Nope. I’m going to finish this water bottle then go to sleep.

 

Tomorrow morning is going to be here way too soon, and I know Terri is going to kick my ass.

Daily Post 038: The Monday Grouch

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Let’s see if I can bang out my daily writing before having to go to work. :3

 

So yesterday was Monday… It’s hard to believe that only makes it Tuesday morning. It feels like so much has happened… still. I guess with a crazy busy weekend that tends to happen.

 

Yesterday morning started out a little rough. Zane had stayed up way later than he should have. Bobby stuck around for longer than was polite on a work night… It was a not fun situation. It meant Zane was crazy grouchy when he woke up.

 

Luckily I was able to tell it was just a mood and not really meant to sting, but some of his words were unfair and did hurt. I packed his lunch and made him breakfast which I also put in his lunch box so he could get to work a bit early, beating most of the traffic, and nap for a bit longer in the car.

 

He was appreciative of me taking care of his morning, even remembering to pack cookies, and letting him sleep for a bit longer. I know what it’s like to not get enough sleep and to dread having to go through the day. I wanted to make his morning better even if I couldn’t make the lack of sleep any easier to handle.

 

I also mentioned maybe sticking to an 11pm curfew on work nights. If everyone leaves at 11ish that would give both of us 30 minutes to an hour to wrap up the day and get ready for bed, which would still only give us less than six hours of sleep.

 

I also mentioned that maybe it would be better to try to find a different day to do the game on. A day where there wouldn’t be a time limit on socializing. Friday or Saturday could work, though there would be sometimes I couldn’t be able to be at the game due to work. And that really depends on when the lab times are, because if they’re AM then it wouldn’t matter.

 

Anyway, it’s something for us to think about. A tired introvert is never, ever, a good thing, and I felt bad for Zane, because he doesn’t have sick time yet he couldn’t take the day off without bad juju happening at work. He’s still in his 90 period so we don’t want any bad marks on his record. I don’t want it there for the additional reason that it was sort of self-inflicted. Owning up to consequences and everything, though I still think it was rude of Bobby to not leave after the game was over. He knows both Zane and I have to get up early in the morning. If he wants to hang out later he should come over on other days.

 

So yeah, morning wasn’t terrible, but it was like trying to hug a cactus. Sort of not cool.

 

After Zane left I put some of the clothes away, but not all of them. I showered and got ready for work, deciding to go to the gym afterwards rather than before since I didn’t want to be rushed while I was there.

 

I made it to work fine. The new bike seat is way different since it’s a girls seat, and that’s actually something I want to look further into. Why there’s a difference. Also, the difference between a girl bike and a guy bike, because curiosity. I know visually the difference, but I don’t know why there is a difference. So that will happen at some point I think. Not right now since I’m running out of time.

 

Work ended up being more than I thought it would be. Frank’s daughter was sick over the weekend, and about 30 minutes into the lab his daycare called saying she was still sick so he had to go pick her up. That left me alone in lab. I was able to handle it fine, but I wasn’t able to do anything else. I even forgot to clock in I’m pretty sure. Luckily Clavan is an awesome supervisor and will fix the error for me, but it’s still annoying to realize that I was so bombarded with questions that I couldn’t even open the computer.

 

I literally did nothing but answer questions yesterday. I ended up having a really awesome conversation with one of the students though. I think I gave him some really good perspective about what it will take to set himself apart from not only his classmates, but the other people he will be competing with for job openings.

 

After lab I needed to get away from people. I changed back into my biking gear and headed to the gym. I ran around the track again. Minute intervals. My shines were sore at first but around the third interval I started finding my pace. I think I’m going to stick to minutes a few more times, maybe the rest of this week, then move it up to two minutes. I also did weights yesterday. Mostly upper body, but some leg stuff, too.

 

I biked home, going over the bridge on the bike trail. I told myself that if I biked all the way up it I could have a burger when I got home. I guess I really wanted that burger.

 

 

I wasn’t able to make it all the way home without stopping though. On my route I pass by a gas station. It’s actually right in front of one of the lights that I have to wait for. I actually stopped there and went inside to get some Gatorade and a salad. I hadn’t eaten anything since my protein bar during lab and I was not only feeling super headachy, but also sort of sick from not eating enough.

 

I sat outside listening to music while I ate my Southwestern salad and had almost all of one of the bottles I bought. There was a deal, buy two for $3.

 

It was awesome sitting in the shade, resting, recovering. I was able to watch people as they came and went, noticing the traffic pattern for the lights. It was nice.

 

After sitting for a bit and letting the food settle I got back on the bike and continued home. I didn’t go as fast as I could have. I had my backpack with me, so I’m sure that factored into my slower time, but my body in general was beat. Biking, running, and lifting all in one day is a lot I think. I’m going to keep doing it because I’m a Type A and I don’t know the meaning of “Slow and Steady”. It’s “All or Nothing”.

 

I made it home eventually, carried the bike up the stairs, and proceed to do nothing. It was the most amazing nothing I’ve ever done.

 

Actually I posted my 16 page blog from all the days I didn’t write. I still haven’t done a weekly saga post, but I’m sure that will happen in the next day or so. I really want to keep up with those.

 

I did end up curling up in bed after I showered. I also did have that burger I promised myself. Along with a bunch of water.

 

Zane came home. We had amazing cuddle time together before watching an episode of Arrow while smoking one of the flavors of shisha. It’s a mandarin orange, which smells like an orange Starburst. We mixed it with a little bit of mint shisha so it has a really cool, sort of chilly flavor to it. I enjoyed it.

 

Trevor and Danielle took over the kitchen right when I wanted to start making the potato leek soup, so instead I had the leftover half a steak and veggies in the fridge. Zane made a snack too, but I’m not sure what it was. I think tater tots.

 

We didn’t get to make dinner until 10. Which sort of sucked because it was so late. In the mean time Zane watched Doctor Who, I poked around at my computer for a bit. We did end up rearranging the room, but we both ran out of steam for putting stuff back where it belonged as far as the bookcase and such were concerned. And I totally didn’t feel like crawling around plugging my computer back up. So we decided to save that for tomorrow (today).

 

We watched another episode of Arrow while we ate. I had another salad with the soup and a piece of toast. A nice light-ish meal for the end of such a busy day. I would feel back about eating what seemed like a lot of food, but nope. I’m pretty sure I burned just as much calories as I consumed yesterday. And I’m not going to feel guilty about not going to the gym today.

 

Funny how I consider today an “off” day when I’m still biking close to 7 miles. Perspective.

 

Anyway, that’s about it for yesterday. Zane and I were both exhausted so sleep came fairly quickly for both of us. We slept together, and even had cutesy pillow talk like we used to. It was nice, reassuring, comforting.

 

He was super grouchy again this morning, but we both know it is from not getting enough sleep and introverted alone time. But that’s for another post.

 

I need to get going and shower so I can get out the door. Also, posting this without proof reading. Please don’t murder me for grammar. <3

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Daily Post 037: The Not So Daily Post

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I have about a week’s worth of writing to catch up on. How did it get away from me for so long… And then there’s going to be the weekly recap… >.<; So much stuff…

 

This was also written last night, but I lost steam on editing my typos (which I’m sure there are still tons of), and this morning has been super crazy.

 

Thursday

Not surprisingly Thursday is hard to recall and is most likely going to take the most time to write about as I sit here and ponder what actually happened and in what order. I had meant to write when I got to the end of my day. There was lots of anxiety over my test. I never got around to doing yoga before work, but my morning was pretty chill all things considered. I spent a fair amount of my morning stitching before biking to work.

 

I did go to Crisper’s for their Southwestern salad. It was pretty good. It wasn’t covered by their happy hour special though so I’ll most likely not be getting it again any time soon. Ideally I’m not going out to eat during the week anyway, so spending shouldn’t be happening as much in the future in general.

 

I worked up some concept designs for the character sheets during the second lab. That was fun since I got to draw on the dry erase board. I’ve filled up my artbook and haven’t replaced the one that I keep in my backpack. I don’t think I would have put a new one in it anyway with biking to work. I don’t want to run the risk of sweating through the back and messing up the book.

 

The first lab was super rough and left me drained before it was even halfway over. The turn in for the project was at midnight, so it’s not surprising that there were so many questions and minor freak outs.

 

It meant that I didn’t have the mental capacity to do much of anything else. After the little bit of brainstorming during the second lab I went back to stitching off and on between answering questions. I haven’t been able to but any real time into Clavan’s project since then, which is frustrating. It’s so close to being done. >.<

 

I want to have it done by the Tinkerer’s meeting that Bre scheduled, which is this Wednesday. I would love to be able to give Clavan his gift during the meeting. I think that would be perfect.

 

Zane picked me up from work on Thursday so I didn’t have to bike home in the dark. We decided to leave the bike at school and that we would dive me back at some point during the weekend so I could ride it home.

 

He took me out to Pita Pit for dinner as a way to get the light, leafy dinner I craved. It had good moments and bad moments. I was still overwhelmed from work and realy in the ride Zane got angry at other drivers doing stupid thigns. It wasn’t a good combination for us.

 

Things smoothed over. We sat and ate so I could be still for a little while. Originally he had wanted to eat at home, but I needed time to decompress, so the compromise was we would eat at the shop until his sandwich was done, and then we would leave. I was ok with that arrangement. Zane did finish he food before me, so I wrapped up the little bit of sandwich that I had left and finished eating in the car.

 

On the way home Zane began talking about the PS4. Since I was tired and drained I wasn’t very talkative. He ended up saying that he was going to stop talking since I didn’t care about the topic, which caused me to get angry.

 

I did / do care. I was listening to everything he was saying. Having a statement made about my feelings didn’t help our situation. He said that all I had done since he had picked me up from school was “bitch” at him, which stung because I felt I hadn’t complained about anything that had happened. I had stayed quiet actually other than to say work was rough. And all of the moments where we had smiled and laughed… it was like they hadn’t happened to him.

 

When we got to the apartment he parked and got out of the car saying he would see me inside, leaving me to walk up the pathway and stairs alone. It was super early still. Only around 9ish. I went to the room and tried to go to sleep anyway, feeling that with the weight of the test the next day that it wasn’t worth staying up. I could hear the TV in the living room, though, and after a little bit I decided to get my headphone, which were on the kitchen table. I was hoping that music would help cover up the sound and let me sleep.

 

When I went into the kitchen Zane asked me to come over to him. I did. He hugged me. We ended up talking and I mentioned the reason I had gotten angry and bothered was because it had hurt that he made it seem like none of the good interactions had happened or mattered. He said I had a point and he was sorry he had ignored those moments in his statement.

 

We mentioned again how it seems like we’re expecting the worst from each other.

 

He said that he feels like I’m still depressed a lot of the time because I’m still so quiet. He said I wasn’t like that in the beginning, before his unemployment. I’m not sure how I feel about that. I told him that in the beginning I felt like I was alone, which is why I was on the dating site in the first place. I didn’t hang out with my old roommates. I didn’t hang out with co-workers, and still really don’t. I wanted human contact, and when he and I lived apart I would go home when I needed space and silence. I was always charged when I was around him. More social.

 

Now we live together, so he sees when I am quiet and withdrawn, which has a negative connotation. So lets not use that word. It’s not the right word. I don’t feel like I am withdrawn. I feel like I am calm, peaceful. I am slower and able to go at my own pace, which lets me enjoy the things around me. I am able to do the things that I want which normally doesn’t involve other people. Watching TV and playing games and hanging out with others, that’s fun, but isn’t often restoring. TV sometimes, but not often. Same with games. It depends. It’s still input that I’m having to process, so if I’m over stimulated it’s not fun anymore. It’s more tasking that I have to do, which doesn’t recharge me. I enjoy quiet cuddles on the couch where I can listen to him breathing, where we can have random conversations as topics come to us.

 

He likes that sometimes. He would rather us be engaging in something. Maybe we can find a compromise with this. If I have my quiet time I will be more likely to do the things that he wants to do. So maybe we can have quiet time first for a little bit, then go about our evening. It is something I will bring up later tonight I think.

 

Zane ended up letting me go back to the room so I could sleep. I felt better than I had before our conversation. As it was I was so exhausted that I wasn’t able to stay awake fretting over my test. I suppose there is a bright side to everything…

Friday

Friday started sort of rough. I hadn’t set my alarm before going to sleep, figuring Zane was going to wake up at his normal time. But he didn’t. Since I was driving him to work so I could have the car for the drive to Jacksonville he thought it would be better for both of us to get more sleep. I had planned on getting breakfast from a gas station along with a coffee / cappuccino thingy when I stopped for fill the car up, and Zane didn’t want to cook breakfast for himself in the morning so there was no real reason to wake up super early.

 

I showered, looked up the directions to the testing center, which were amazing easy. Huzzah! I made sure I had everything that I might, maybe, possibly, need in case the end of the world happened, then headed to the car with Zane.

 

He wanted to stop at a gas station before work so he could pick up breakfast and lunch for himself. Wawa is a gas station chain that is popular up north, but has recently been taking over in Florida. They’re well known for their sub station, which is basically like a Subway built inside of the gas station, but better.

 

Well, I didn’t know that they do breakfast sandwiches, too. We stopped at one for Zane and when I saw that they did breakfast I guess I sort of lit up because Zane said if I wanted something that he would get it for me. He walked me through all of the options, clicking the buttons as I looked at the screen from around his arm, hugging him from behind while we both built our breakfast sandwiches. I even got to have a mint mocha coffee.

 

While Zane was waiting for the food I went ahead and put gas in the car since I was taking care of everything that I needed to in one stop. The whole experience was extremely pleasant and helped smooth out the remaining wrinkles from the previous night. Zane also got a bottle of water for me so I could have something to drink during the drive.

 

I took Zane the rest of the way to work and was able to kiss him goodbye before heading out to start my adventure to Jacksonville. I’m super glad that I’ve been biking to work. As awesome as it was to be able to take him to work and be part of his morning, I don’t think I would stay sane if I had to do that commute every morning just to drive back home. It would be over an hour of my morning, not to mention the gas.

 

I feel sort of guilty for writing that because I feel like that makes it seem like I don’t want to do things for Zane. I feel like it makes it seem like taking him to work would be “too much,” and that’s not it at all. It’s more that when given the option between driving him or being self sufficient, I’m not taking the lazy option. I’m taking the option that is healthier, more time efficient, and what I feel is the more financially responsible option. There’s no reason for me to not bike to work, or to other places that I need / want to go (with in reason). Seeing what the choice could have been made me realize how right my choice was, and I’m happy to have that validation. It makes it easier to wake up and enjoy my ride because it could be over an hour of sitting in traffic instead.

 

Driving during rush hour traffic sort of sucked in the beginning, but once I was on the interstate it was smooth driving and basically and hour and a half of solitude and good music. I feel like construction follows me everywhere I go in Florida since there were three new construction spots on the trip to Jacksonville since the last time I drove home to visit my mom, but it really didn’t affect my travel speed, so it was more just a slight annoyance of having orange barrels everywhere.

 

It was easy to find the building that I needed to be at, and the suite. They were actually still installing the test software onto the laptop that I was going to be testing on, so I had a few minutes to use the restroom and to get about five minutes worth of stitching in.

 

The proctor for the test was super nice; a guy named Seth. He walked me through the setup process, and was extremely helpful and reassuring when Maya started crashing on me.

 

Yeah… even during an exam the software is buggy as fuck. If I had been a recent graduate taking the certification and it had glitched out on me like that I would have had anxiety through the roof. As it was it was just a mild annoyance because I had to keep pausing the test software to wait for the program to re-launch, which meant Seth had to keep reading me off my sign-in number and permitting my pause in the test.

 

There were only 4 questions out of the 35 that I “marked” so I could come back to them. I ended up passing with a 94%, and I know the two questions that I missed, but for the life of me I honestly didn’t know how to find the right answers. I’m sure with more digging around I could have, but I was happy with what I had done, so not getting those two was ok in my book.

 

A lot of the questions were easy for me.

 

The test room was super amazing, too. I was in a room with rows of flat tables, much like the tables that are in the powered lecture halls at school. I had a Windows laptop, which was a little annoying since I work with Mac more often than not, but really that just means I mess up the hotkeys every once in a while. It wasn’t a big deal to be honest.

 

The desks faced a giant wall of windows, and outside of the windows was this gorgeous view of trees and a pound that had a fountain in the center with water shooting up, catching the sunlight of the autumn day.

 

It looked so peaceful, so beautiful. Anytime I started to feel frustrated with Maya crashing on me I would look out the window at the water. I would watch the branches swaying with the breeze, and I would breath as the program re-launched.

 

I would just let it all go. This test wasn’t going to define me. It didn’t really mean anything. I know I’m good. I know I’m smart and resourceful. I know I can figure stuff out and learn. This test, this program, doesn’t make me a good person. Really, it just means that I have an interesting hobby that I’m lucky enough to work in such a way to make it pay my bills.

 

There wasn’t a reason to get anxious. It was just a test. Just silly, randomly generated questions.

 

So when I was an hour into my two hour limit, I only had those two questions that I didn’t know the answer to. I was done. I didn’t want to dig and find the answers. I was confident I had gotten all of the other answers right. I only needed a 71% to pass. I was ok with not getting those two questions. I was ok with not being perfect. So I submitted the test, filled out a quick survey, and then had my results pop up on my screen.

 

Jennifer Conley, Congratulations you have passed the Maya 2015 Professional Certification with a 94%.

 

I couldn’t stop the smile on my face. And I know it was a childish, pure joy, type of smile. Almost a foolish smile. I just couldn’t help it. I felt so much self-validation. Everyone at the testing center congratulated me. Seth asked if he should play celebration music. I laughed and said no, that I was going to endure enough “I told you so”s to make up for it.

 

It wasn’t until I was halfway back to the interstate that I realized I had forgotten to actually pay for my exam. XD

 

Leave it to me to remember to pack my checkbook and then not use it…

 

It was too late for me to turn around, so I kept driving hoping that I would be able to fix the issue when I got home either by mailing a check or paying over the phone with my card. Something.

 

Before leaving I had texted my mom, Zane, and Clavan about the results, letting them know I had passed. My mom called me while I was driving home, so we chatted for a bit, which was nice. She had been at the doctor’s doing her own set of tests, unfortunately her results aren’t as instant. She has to wait for the docs to check over the scans, so it’s a bunch of hurry up and wait. She seems to be doing well. I wish I was closer to her to be more of an emotional support. I’m sure she could use some company.

 

I drove the rest of the way home listening to music and feeling pretty good, and yet at the same time sort of silly for having something pretty trivial mean anything at all to me.

 

I mean really… out of all of the things they could have asked me I simply lucked out that it was only two questions that I didn’t know. I could have had horrible luck and gotten more questions that I couldn’t answer, or answered wrong.

 

Maya is such a huge program. There’s no way to know everything for every situation. I still learn new things about it every lab. New hot keys, new short cuts, new work flows, new errors. There’s so many people out there who know so much more than me. And yet…

 

And yet, I now enough to be considered a professional. I know enough to hold my own. I know enough to hold my head a little bit higher, stand a little bit straighter, and to know that I have done something that none of my other co-workers have.

 

It makes me have pride in myself. I went through with something that I have wanted for literally years. I found out all of the information for the exam. I worked through the booklets. I found the testing center, and I took the test. I didn’t give up when it took over a month to figure out where to take the F’ing exam. I didn’t back out when I had to drive two hours to a place I had never been to take a test I might fail.

 

I didn’t back down. And I think that’s what I’m proud of the most. That I didn’t shrink away.

 

Zane asked what I wanted to do to celebrate while we were texting before I started driving back home. I honestly hadn’t thought that far. I hadn’t let myself think past the test. There was only the test. There was never results. There was never passing. Maybe failing… but never passing. There was just going there and taking the exam.

 

The end.

 

But there’s always something after the happily ever after. And here I was, in the after part.

 

What did I want to do?

 

I said that I didn’t know but that I would think about it on the way home. And I did.

 

I want to dye my hair again. It’s been over a year since I shaved my head. It has grown back to the point that I can pull it back into a small bun or a ponytail. It’s starting to hang down in curls again. It brushes the tops of my shoulders.

 

I want to dye it purple again. I want to go back to what I feel is normal for me. I think that will be the most amazing thing to mark this accomplishment. A year ago I made a commitment to myself. To better myself. To find myself and to be true to that self. And this past Friday I reaffirmed something that I knew. That I am good enough. That I am awesome, and that I am my own person. I feel like I’ve earned the right to dye my hair again.

 

I don’t know if I can explain it more than that at the moment. But I do feel like it is something that I have earned. I feel like this is the right thing to do, and that it isn’t some random “because it’s cool” thing. It means something to me. It’s a rite of passage in a way.

 

It won’t be able to happen until this coming weekend, but it will be my reward. It will be amazing, and I can’t wait to smell the Manic Panic dye again. It will most likely be an emotional thing for me, but then again, what isn’t? #INFJissues

 

When I got home I did have an email form my contact congratulating me, but also mentioned that I forgot to pay and to message her back. I ended up giving them my card information and was able to take care of the issue. I apologized over and over again, because there were multiple emails, saying how I had not meant to leave without paying. It’s all water under the bridge now though. And really, it makes for a humorous story.

 

I kept plucking away at my email since I had several messages to take care of. I also made a post on Facefail about my certification giving a special thank you to my mom, Zane, and Clavan. I told them “Thank you for believing in me even when it’s hard for me to believe in myself.”

 

By then it was time to pick up Zane from work. I headed out and still got there with enough time to sit and wait for a little bit. Once he got to the car there was an amazing kiss hello. We decided to go to a different Best Buy for the PS4 to avoid traffic.

 

Zane was super stoked for it. There was actually an amazing deal on the PS4 where he ended up getting two games free, one of them being Fallout 4. Because of that he bought me God of War 3, the remastered PS4 version, since he had budgeted money to go towards the Fallout game. I haven’t had a chance to play it yet, but I’m looking forward to when I can. I love the God of War series. Some much win.

 

We decided to go to my sports bar for celebration dinner where I ended up having a draft of Angry Orchard. Good food, and it wasn’t super busy yet since it was so early en the evening. Towards the end of dinner we were both ready to be home. Zane drove since I was still fuzzy from the drink.

 

When we got home I had another apple cider, and went to sleep shortly after, leaving Zane to enjoy his new relationship with the PS4. Though I really can’t blame him. It’s super sexy.

 

Saturday

Friday was a super full day, and Saturday was along the same vein.

 

It started with making breakfast. Not sure if I ever mentioned it or not, but one of the things Zane bought while we were at the produce store was quail eggs. Since they had been in the fridge for a while I used those for breakfast. The eggs are so small compared to normal chicken eggs. They’re cute.

 

There’s not much of a difference in taste, so I don’t think we’re going to go out of our way to buy them again unless we’re doing something that specifically calls for them.

 

Anyway, breakfast was awesome. Zane and I ended up going to the Verizon store to look into setting up a new account, which took about an hour and a half. I had to play around with the new iPhone since the design is different. I actually really like the size of the iPhone 4. I’m not into having a giant screen. I just want to be able to check my email, and text. Making phone calls, maybe… Only if I really, really, like the person though… I don’t need a 64 gig Swiss Army computer in my pocket…

 

I also looked at an iPad since I was there. Frank lets me play on his every once in a while and OmniFocus works on it. It would sort of replace my notebook, but I’m not sure I’m ok with that. So I don’t think I actually want to get one. It was nice to poke at it for a bit.

 

Turns out I wasn’t able to open an account right away due to the $90 charge that ERS keeps bothering me about. I went ahead and paid that. I’m happy that I paid through Verizon itself though rather than through ERC. It feels more official that way, and with all of the negative content I found for ERC I don’t think I would have ever been comfortable working with them.

 

So, with all of that squared away we should have been green-lit to get the new phones and set up the account. For some reason it wasn’t letting us do a monthly payment plan. The associate we were working with spent a lot of time talking to various people and various departments trying to figure out why in one system we were approved, but on his system we weren’t.

 

Come to find out it was because of the charge. Because it had defaulted the system thought Zane and I wouldn’t make timely payments. The associate said that he could fill out a form to request an override from his district manager (or someone like that) and that he would let us know when it was approved.

 

I asked what would happen if it was denied, because you know, I can never accept that something is going to work out to a positive conclusion.

 

He said that if it was denied we would have to pay more for the phones up front, but that would make the monthly payments less.

 

Since we couldn’t do anything until we knew about the approval, which since it was Saturday could take a few days, Zane and I left to go to Travel Country to see about exchanging my running shoes. We thanked the associate for his time and away we went.

 

I was so nervous about the exchange, but it was one of the most amazingly fantastic experiences I have had as far as returning an item. I walked in and was greeted warmly, which is normal for the store. Their sales team is always super friendly.

 

I sheepishly said that I sort of needed to see a manager. One of the girls who was at the counter said she could help me, so I explained that I had bought the shoes last weekend, and had even worn them around the store, and that they had felt fine at the time, but when I got to the gym and tried running on the indoor track that they were too loose and that my feet kept slipping inside of the shoe.

 

I didn’t have the box the shoes came in or the receipt since Trevor had taken the trash out. I said that I had called and talked to someone during the week and they said to come talk to a manager since it would be up to them to approve the exchange.

 

The manager was so nice. She said that as long as it was within the return time frame (30 or 60 days, she couldn’t remember which) that the store would take the merchandise back, no problem. She brought down two different sizes for me to try on, but the first pair worked great. It feels like my feet are being hugged. Not too loose and not too tight. It’s the first pair of Vibrams I’ve owned that cover the entire top of my foot. I really do like the style so far, and I especially love them since they fit properly now.

 

To make it even better, the shoes were on sale so they credited my account back $25 from what I paid when I first got the shoes. I absolutely love this store because every time I go there it is a fantastic experience. I had been worried that I would be stuck with a pair of $170 shoes that I couldn’t use. Instead I got the perfect pair for cheaper. I was so excited to try them out. I couldn’t wait to get to the gym.

 

Zane and I went home. I had an apple with some peanut butter, changed, then took the car to the gym since I still didn’t have the bike. I ran the track doing minute intervals. It’s the most I’ve run in a while. I had muscle soreness but my shines seem to be fine. I also did two sets on the upper body machines, which totaled out to 4200 pounds.

 

I felt like I could go for more, but I’m pretty sure that was my runners high, and I didn’t want to risk pushing too hard, which I’ve done a lot of in the past. So I stopped at two. Next time if I can make it through three then I’ll up my weights.

 

I came home and showered. When I looked at my phone I saw that I had a message from the Verizon guy. We were denied for the payment plan. I got a bit more information from him and thanked him for his time. I let him know that once Zane and I figured out what we wanted to do that we would call him back. I’ve thought of a few more questions to ask him, but we’re not going to do anything with the phones until Friday, so that’s on the back burner for the moment. And I’m totally ok with that.

 

Zane had another session for his Pathfinder game that evening, so he left shortly after we talked about the phones. I napped while he was gone. He was supposed to be home around 8, so when I woke up at 7:40 because my roommates were being super loud I didn’t think I would have to suffer for long. Zane would be home and I could go to school and work on podcasts, or we could be irresponsible and go out for dinner, or something. Bottom line, we would be able to get away from the noise.

 

At 10:30 I still hadn’t heard from Zane. He hasn’t responded to my messages. I didn’t know what to think or do. I didn’t have the bike, and even if I did I still didn’t have a new head light for it, so riding at night was going to suck hardcore.

 

It got to the point where I couldn’t stay in the apartment anymore. It felt suffocating. I needed to get out. I needed to breathe, to think. I needed to be away.

 

So I started walking to school. If nothing else I could get the bike and ride it home. Hopefully with it being so late it would be easier since there wouldn’t be as much traffic.

 

I was also sort of angry. Zane and I had talked about how things would be once he was mobile. I told him that I didn’t really mind or care what he did, but that since we’re sort of a unit, looking out for each other, it would be nice to know a basic idea of where he was or if he wasn’t going to be home so I would know not to worry.

 

This sort of felt like a breech of that. He had said he would be home around 8 because that’s when the place they were holding the game closed. He said when he got home we could try the chia tea shisha that he had ordered. But after two and a half hours I still hadn’t heard from him.

 

I felt like that was inconsiderate, and instead of letting myself stay at the apartment stewing in an environment that was already frustrating I decided to go outside and walk instead.

 

About halfway to school I saw a text from Zane on my phone while I was skipping through my music asking where I was. I replied that I was walking to school and said what street I was on.

 

A little while later he pulled up next to me, opening the door for me to get in.

 

I was nervous. I didn’t know if he would be mad. I was still sort of unsettled because of the lack of communication, and feeling trapped at the apartment. It’s not like I could have been angry at my roommates. Well… I mean… I could have been, but realistically it was 8pm on a Saturday night.

 

What am I going to do? Rain on their parade? It’s not their fault my past two days have been fairly busy and that what I really need is absolute silence. It’s not fair to them to say they can’t use the living room, a communal area, for social gathering and enjoying the weekend. I felt the better solution was to remove myself since I was the one with the issue. And while I was sort of frustrated with the lack of communication, I super, seriously did NOT want to mess up Zane’s night.

 

Zane explained that the place hadn’t had wifi, and since his phone still doesn’t have service he hadn’t been able to send or receive messages. He said he had stayed afterwards to chat with Hana in the parking lot. I said that Trevor, Danielle, and John had woken me up by watching stuff in the living room and then John had started playing his music super loud and that I needed to get away. I said I had been going to the school to get the bike.

 

Zane drove me there. When we parked the car he got out and hugged me. He had asked first and I said that I might cry. He said that was ok and hugged me anyway. I didn’t cry, but we did hug for an extended period of time. Eventually the tension I was feeling melted away, leaving me tired again. Biking home wasn’t going to happen, but we did check to make sure the bike was still there. I lock it up pretty well, but I didn’t like how it had been left all by itself for so long. I don’t want it to develop abandonment issues.

 

It was still there, with all of its pieces. So that was nice. I guess I really should figure out a name for it. Because I’m weird like that. I also feel sort of guilty that I think of the bike as “my bike”. It’s a lot like this image… Mine, rawr.

 

smaug

 

Zane and I ended up going to the McDonald’s on campus since their lobby is open 24/7. Neither of us wanted to be at the apartment with everyone being social. We chatted more about his Pathfinder game. We talked more about Hana, the server from the sushi place. I explained my feelings of third-wheely-ness.

 

It was a good conversation. We ended up sitting outside on the sidewalk in front of the building for a bit, still chatting where we had a bit of a spat. Zane had said something about how I was only going to vote for Bernie Sanders because he had told me to…

 

*digs heels into ground*

 

Hold up. I do not do things simply because I am told to. And that is actually not why I plan to vote for Bernie. It was a lot like his comment about how I didn’t care about the PS4. It was an invalid statement about my feelings, and it upset me.

 

I mentioned how it seemed that he was doing that a lot recently. How it feels like he keeps making assumptions about my feelings or actions, and that those assumptions makes the feelings I do have seem invalidated, which is where the angry and upsetted-ness comes from.

 

It was a situation which could have turned into a huge fight that messed up the night, but I think we actually recovered from it, both of us understanding the other’s perspectives a bit clearer, and both of us agreeing that instead of assuming things, we’ll start asking for clarification instead.

 

When we got home everyone was in their rooms. Well… John was trying to sleep on the couch, which was lame because that meant Zane couldn’t play on the PS4. We ended up chilling in the bedroom for a bit, trying out the chia tea shisha like we were supposed to. I like it, but I think it would taste better with a bit of mint, or maybe some extra vanilla in it.

 

John ended up going back to his room after about 30 minutes so Zane went to the living room to play Fallout 4. I stayed curled up in bed. I don’t remember hearing him turn on the TV that’s how fast I fell asleep.

 

Sunday

 

Man… I’m already at 10 pages and I still have all of today to get through. >.<;

 

I feel like I’ve been typing for hours. Today has been an amazing day though, and totally deserves to be written about. Zane came into the room around 7am. He had fallen asleep on the couch while playing his game, and he was sorry for that because he had said he would sleep in the room with me last night. I wasn’t bothered by it though. I had slept solid the whole night and was ok with that.

 

I ended up getting up and moving out to the couch myself. I was up, but not really ready to start the day. I guess I ended up falling back asleep because the next thing I knew Zane was waking me up around 9 saying that we needed to do the grocery shopping.

 

Um… shouldn’t we meal plan first?

 

So we figured out what we wanted for food this week. Sriracha chicken rice bowls, since that didn’t go according to plan last time, and leek soup with salads. We also still have burger for sandwiches.

 

We made the shopping list and figured out how the day was going to go. Since Zane hadn’t gotten much playtime in on the game yesterday I offered to do all of the shopping on my own. He let me take his card since it’s still his turn to do grocery. We had breakfast together, after which I showered, then headed out on my own.

 

I went across the street to the produce store again. I got everything we needed from there for $25. Awesome sauce. From there I went to the bike store to get the head light.

 

I actually was rung out by the same associate I had spoken to when I bought my helmet. He was super awesome once again. He took the light out and showed me how to attach it to the bike along with a few tips and tricks since it’s the same light that he uses on his bike. I also asked him a bit about attaching the bike rack to the bike, but he said without seeing everything he really couldn’t comment much.

 

I’m most likely going to get the bike tuned up in January, so I might look into it then.

 

Anyway, another really awesome experience there. I stopped at the bank to withdrawal $20 to put on the laundry card. Then I went to Publix for the rest of the items we needed. Another $20. So as far as grocery goes, we only spent $50ish.

 

I chatted with my mom for a bit on the way home. She had a bit of gossip to talk about. It was on the short side as far as our conversations go, but it was good to talk with her again. I told her about going out to dinner with Zane and how I was going to dye my hair again.

 

When I got home I showed Zane all of the loot I had gotten since he had felt like $25 wasn’t going to be enough. He was impressed. I spent the next while prepping all of our food for the week. I made a batch of egg mix for my breakfasts. I cut up the chicken and put that in the freezer. I cut up the onions, broccoli, boiled eggs, cut up lettuce, made salads. All sorts of stuff.

 

I cleaned out the fridge too. John’s bacon had mold on it, and there was a bag of lettuce mix that had spoiled and was super icky. No wonder things smelled off… Normally it would bother me to throw other people’s stuff away, but when it’s that spoiled I have no mercy. I spent so much time cleaning the kitchen during my week off, including scrubbing every inch of the fridge. I’ll be damned if I let other people mess that up.

 

Zane and I had the rest of the cheddar broccoli soup with toast and a bit of salad for lunch. It was super awesome. Filling but not super heavy.

 

Around three Zane and I got ready to head out. He was going to drop me off at school so I could bike to the gym, lift weights, then bike home. Good thing I checked the gym hours before leaving. The YMCA closes at 3pm on Sunday. Soooooo much laaaaaaame. Arg.

 

Well, I had to get the bike regardless, so Zane still dropped me off. Luckily the bike was still there. That would have sucked. We actually joked, saying if I wasn’t back at the apartment in 40 minutes that he would have to come pick me up because I wasn’t going to walk all the way home.

 

I actually made it to the apartment before Zane did since he stopped at Publix on his way back. Since we were so under budget he wanted to get snacky stuff for his lunches. Crackers and cookies. I’m ok with that. He set aside $100 for this week and we had only used half of it.

 

Since the bike was back home safe and sound I broke out the tools and started playing with stuff. I took off the front reflector since it was where I wanted to put the new head light. I played around with snapping the light on an off the mount. It charges via USB. I also tested out turning the light itself on and off and switching through the different light settings. I think it’s going to be awesome. I love it at the moment, but I haven’t ridden with it at night yet, so we’re still in the honeymoon phase.

 

I also ended up switching the seat on Zane’s bike with the one from Frank’s. It took me a little while, but I figured out how to do it, and rode around the apartment’s parking lot once. I had to adjust a few things, but on the second ride around everything felt great. And I felt super savvy for having taken care of it myself. Go me!

 

I showered once I was done showing off to Zane my handy work. I took the laundry down to be washed, but wasn’t able to dry it at the apartment. We only had $1.25 left on the card, and with the higher prices we now need $1.75 to use the dryer.

 

It’s actually to the point where it would be cheaper to do the clothes at the laundry mat. It will be something I mention to Zane later. Not tonight though.

 

While the clothes were in the wash I began working through my emails since I hadn’t done anything with them since Friday afternoon. I still had a fair amount to read by the time the wash was done. I packed up my backpack, kissed Zane goodbye, then took the wash to the laundry mat to dry. I finished going through my mail while I was there, even taking the time to write a pretty long email to Chrys since I had a message from her.

 

When I got home dinner had already been cooked. We had the last bit of steak with mashed potatoes and the green beans I had made earlier. Since then I have been back in the room writing.

 

Normally Sunday is game day, but Bobby originally wasn’t going to be able to make it due to family being in town, and John is hardcore sick, again. I also never got around to being able to make the new character sheets. So the game got canceled in favor of being normal hang out time. Bobby was able to come over after all, so he, Uke, and Zane have been having bro time out in the living room while I write.

 

I really ought to put the clothes away, but that’s not going to happen.

 

Zane and I also talked about rearranging the room tomorrow. I’m excited about that. But right now I’m tired. I’m not even going to worry about making a to-do list I don’t think.

 

I’m just going to finish writing this, do my pre-bed chores, and then go to sleep. I’m super tired, I’ve had an amazing weekend full of productivity, communication, and adventures.

 

Tomorrow I’m going to wake up, have breakfast, go to the gym, then go to work. Once I’m there I can figure out the rest of my day.

Musing Moment 0074: Days 28 – 30

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Day 28 – List Management

I’m guilty of not following this day. In Chalene’s system the to-do list is supposed to be thought of as scared ground, much like the calendar is with my system. The only things that are added to the calendar and things that have to happen on specific dates at specific times. Doctor’s appointments, work meetings, my lab schedules, due dates for assignments.

Things that if I miss them there will be consequences and bad juju.

The to-do list in Chalene’s system is supposed to be similar to the calendar in that you only add things to your to-do list that MUST be done that very day or else fire and brimstone will rain down upon your world.

My to-do list doesn’t really follow that rule. I use my to-do list as a generalized map of my day. My battle plan as I call it.

Wake up (seriously sometimes that’s on my list), make breakfast, take vitamin, bike to gym, workout, shower… You get the idea. Main events that take any significant amount of time, or things I need to remember to do, or would like to do for that day are what get penciled in on my lists, along with reminders and ad hoc things as they come up. And my lists are always, always, in pencil.

Things change and I want to be able to erase and rewrite if I need to. I’m also not scared of flipping to a new page and starting my list over from scratch if I feel things have changed too much. Old battle plan won’t work? Fine. I’ll make a new one. Screw that old one anyway. It wasn’t that awesome.

Sometimes though I get to the end of my day and there’s tons of stuff left over. Those days suck, and Chalene’s method makes it so you don’t have crummy feelings on those days because you don’t have a billion things on your list. You only have the things that you had to get done, so at the end you have a completed list, always.

The things that I didn’t get to on my list seriously didn’t need to get done specifically on that day. It just would have been really nice if I had gotten around to it. I shouldn’t feel bad about not getting to them, and to be honest I’ve gotten a lot better about it. But sometimes I still find myself feeling like I got nothing accomplished because my battle plan hardly has a scratch on it.

That being said, I’m not going to change my system. I make it work for me, which is the main thing. Chalene mentions a lot of really awesome tips, and I know for some people this is another really good one. Not so much for me, and that’s ok.

Day 29 – Fluff

Day 29 piggybacks on day 28 a little bit by focusing on our to-do list making skills. Chalene reminds us to make sure the things we are adding to our list aren’t “fluff” tasks.

If we want to be lean, mean, task destroying machines we need to make sure the tasks we’re actually completing are meaningful and worthwhile tasks. No checking Facebook or something else we might convince ourselves that needs to get done, but really doesn’t and is only eating away at our time.

She also reminds us today that the only difference between a dream and a goal is hard work. If you ever find yourself asking HOW am I supposed to do this? How is this going to get done? Then you’re already on the right track.

How would you get it done? What steps would you need to take to get to the end goal? What things need to happen? What tasks could be added to your list that would make this impossible task actually something that is manageable. Do-able. Actionable.

Asking how is the first step. Brainstorming it out is the second. Then all that’s left is to actually do the tasks. Poof! Dream to reality, along with a million pot holes and concrete walls we have to bash our heads against. : )

Day 30 – Success!

The last day of the challenge. Huzzah. I made it through it again. I’ll most likely start it up again tomorrow just because it helps me stay on track. XD

If I do I doubt I’ll be making Musing Moment posts for it. I may make small mentions in my daily writing, but over all I think I’ve written enough about the challenge to not write about it for a while.

I feel like I’m on the right track with things, so really starting the challenge over again would just be a way to make sure I stay on top of my goals rather than falling off the wagon again.

One of the things that bothers me about Chalene’s final post is how she mentions surrounding yourself with the “right” people, reading the “right” books, or listening to the “right” audio programs.

That kind of diction makes it seem like there is “wrong” stuff and that you can mess up and fail and downward spiral of doom followed closely by anxiety and panic.

While it’s true there are more helpful and useful things out there when compared to other, less awesome stuff, I don’t think things should be looked at as right and wrong. I think it should be looked at as, “Is it supportive?”

Does that person support you and your goals? Do they encourage you and build you up? Does that book provide some sort of fulfillment for you, even if it is simply pleasure for the sake of reading?

There’s not right or wrong. Do what you want to do. Just make sure that it lines up with what you want otherwise it won’t feel fulfilling, at least not in the long run. This challenge is all about figuring out life and priorities and goals and taking the steps to get to where we want to be. As long as we’re moving forward on the things that really matter to us we’re not doing anything “wrong”.

Keep being a badass.

pawn

Daily Post 036: Wednesday’s Training

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Yesterday was an alright day. I wrote a little about yesterday morning. How Zane and I didn’t spend much time together. When I was leaving he hugged me goodbye, touching my cheek as he gave me a kiss.

There were tears because I couldn’t stop them, which is beyond annoying. He asked me what was wrong, but with the giant yarn ball of emotions inside me I couldn’t pin point anything down to actually have a conversation about it yet. I told him that when I found out I would let him know.

All in all the morning wasn’t bad. It was nice to have even a little bit of affection, contact. It helped me feel like even though Tuesday sucked that it wasn’t the end of the world. It helped pull me outside of myself a little.

The bike ride to the gym was really nice. I didn’t have my backpack so my speed was up. Over all a nice warm up before getting to the gym for personal training. Terri was there and ready to go. I stashed my bag and helmet (which I still love <3 ) in my locker then went to get my ass kicked.

We did body weight exercises starting with squats, then moving on to lateral lifts, rows, crunches, hip raises, push ups, and ending with a 20 second plank. Each section consisted of 10 reps, and I did five or six rounds of that. I honestly don’t remember. It was pretty brutal towards the end. The squats were the worst. With biking I work the sides of my legs a lot, but the squats were hitting the tops of my quads. You would think I’ve never walked a day in my life with how it burned.

Ok, it wasn’t that bad. I’ve definitely have had more intense muscle burn before. But it was a decent workout, and I’m totally feeling it today. I stretched for a bit, then did a little bit of running on the track upstairs.

That’s where I noticed that I’m not a huge fan of my shoes anymore. They’re a little too big and my feet slide around in them while I’m running. Not cool. At all. The box and receipt have already been thrown away so I’m not all that sure what can be done. I have called the store and asked about possibly returning the shoes for a different size.

Since I’ve worn them the associate said that it might be hard for them to take the shoes back, but that I could stop by and let a manager check them out. Ultimately it would be up to them on if the exchange is possible.

Since I’ve only run in them once on an indoor track I’m hoping that I can exchange them. It will really suck if I can’t. In that instance hopefully eBay will be friendlier. : /

I went to school after the gym. Had to wait 30 minutes for security to unlock the break room again. After eating and having some water I went to lab. I finished off my weekly post and wrote my daily post for Monday and Tuesday since both those days sort of killed my motivation to write. I did a bunch of clean up work on my Weekly Saga template, naming layers, locking things down, and in general organizing stuff.

I biked home with my bag. I can tell a marked difference in my performance with and without it. I cooked a burger when I got home since I was craving protein. I also showered and started a load of laundry. I took steak out to defrost for dinner. I played around more with my Weekly Saga template creating a handful of icons I want to use. I think I’m going to add a few more, but yeah, good progress was made in that area.

I tried doing a few podcasts, but the AC units kept coming through in the background noise and I wasn’t able to remove the constant humming sound, which sucked hardcore. I figured I would try going back to school later in the evening when no one was there to do the recording. Editing I can do pretty much anywhere I have my computer.

I went through my “in” pile on my desk, putting papers away, throwing out the junk mail. I sent out a few emails that I needed to in regards to some of the things in the pile. I created a calendar event for renewing my tags since there was a letter about that. Good productivity. Cleaning always makes things better. I also emptied the bedroom trash can.

I didn’t get around to calling my mom or messaging Jin like I had on my list. I wasn’t feeling social really. Zane was going to come home soon and I didn’t know how that was going to go down. I was nervous about it.

It was awkward at first. But eventually thing eased out. He got the laundry from the dryer for me. I cooked my own steak, which ended up being too much protein with the burger I had earlier. I felt sort of icky feeling, heavy. I really wanted something salad-ish, but we don’t have anything like that in the apartment at the moment and I was too tired to go out and get something from the store.

I’ll most likely get a salad from Crisper’s when I go on break at 4pm. They have their half priced happy hour deal so it should only be about $4.

Anyway, I stitched for a while as we watched some episodes of The Flash. We also brainstormed a new design for the character sheets used in Uke’s game. They recently changed the way stats work and they want the sheets to reflect that change now rather than waiting for the play test to be over. I’m fine with that. It will most likely be what I work on during my labs today.

Zane and Trevor were also able to get the bike rack off of Frank’s bike for me. Down side. It won’t fit onto Zane’s bike properly. It rests too low and prevents the back breaks from functioning, which is pretty much the only break I use. We need to get extension bar things so the bike rack doesn’t rest so low, or something like that. I swear, black thumb for bikes… Nothing can just work with them.

I am thinking about seeing if they will take Frank’s bike for me. Like a trade-in for store credit or something. I’m not going to be using that bike I don’t think. It’s not a road bike like Zane’s and that’s the style I’m super enjoying right now. We’re going to be going to the shop tomorrow so I will ask while we are there.

Speaking of, Zane agreed to spot me on buying better lights for the bike since riding at night is so unfun at the moment. Depending on which one we go with that will either be $60 or $130. Zane gets paid tomorrow and the money that I do have that could go towards the purchase I would rather hold on to just in case. I don’t want to be left with only the card if something bad happens, and with buying the helmet and the shoes this past weekend I’m a little tighter than I want to be.

Compared to how my budget has been the past four-ish months I have so much breathing room I feel sort of lame for cringing right now. I would still feel better keeping the buffer I have, and Zane was ok when I mentioned the arrangement, so I’m pretty sure that will happen.

Zane also wants to get the PS4 tomorrow with Fallout 4. That’s our Christmas present to ourselves, so I’m supposed to go Dutch with him on that. That’s $175ish. I can cover it next paycheck as well, just not something I’m comfy spending this week. Also, new phone accounts with Version happens on Saturday. So much stuff… x.x

I can’t wait for Zane to have a working phone again, though. It’s going to make getting in touch with him so much easier. He’s most likely picking me up from school today since we don’t have the lights yet. Or. Maybe. He can pick me up, we can go to the bike shop, he can take me back to work, and I can try biking home with the new night.

Oh man. New game plan.

Anyway. This weekend is going to be busy.

Yesterday I added Zane to my car insurance. One of the other things Zane and I have been talking about is how he’s having to wait on Bobby to get the registration for the motorcycle taken care of and how that’s taking way longer than what he wants it to. So even if he spends all of the money on the parts for the bike, and somehow got everyone together so they could put the bike back together, there’s nothing saying he would actually be able to drive it yet.

Right now our system is working, it just sucks because I’m always worried about him not being covered by insurance, and there’s a few things I still want for my bike to make my trips to work easier. Zane’s actually the one who approached me about putting the bike on hold and adding him to the insurance policy. He said he would pay half, or the difference of what my payment used to be, which ever ended up being the higher value.

I went through and got a quote and everything and wouldn’t you know my rate went down for adding him… wtf? Because he’s an older dude I somehow magically drive safer? That’s seriously fucked up. But whatev. I’m not going to complain about cheaper rates, just noting that this logic makes no sense.

So yeah. Zane is covered now. I need to put the new insurance card into the car, but it’s nice knowing that I don’t have to worry so much about that now. It would be great if the leasing office for the apartment would get parking decals in so I could stop freaking out wondering if my car is going to get towed again…

That was pretty much my day. Overall it was a low-key day. I never got around to making the podcasts, so I’ll most likely stay later tonight to record that. Which actually reminds me that I can’t go to the bike shop tonight because I work until 9pm not 1pm… so much lame. Guess I’m not biking home after all. Back to the original plan. /sigh

And the new plan seemed so awesome, too. : /

I’m trying not to think about tomorrow and the test. I did message my contact and all I need to bring is the check for the exam fee. They provide everything else. Good to know.

I’m going to try doing some yoga to stretch out my legs before going to work since I’m super sore from yesterday’s training. I’ve already had breakfast, the clothes need to be put away, and the back stitching for Clavan’s gift still needs to be completed. More low-key things that shouldn’t take too much energy to complete.

I’m hoping today is a smooth day. I’m going to need everything I have to get through the weekend.

Daily Post 035: Monday / Tuesday And The Sushi Fiasco

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Monday was a crazy busy day that ended with fighting with Zane, which resulted in me giving zero fucks about writing. And Tuesday morning continued on with the bad feels which left me exhausted by the time I got home from my mentally brutal day. So once again writing got the short end of the stick, especially since I left my computer at school so I wouldn’t have to bike home with it since Trevor and Zane still haven’t figured out the bike rack yet.

Monday started off pretty good. I had breakfast. I went to the gym. I was supposed to meet with Terri, but she was sick and ended up cancelling on Sunday night. I was ok with that. I figured I would meet with her on Wednesday, and that starting out with one training session a week was better than trying to go for two and sucking hardcore on the second one. I’m still biking to work as well, so I want to factor that into my “workout” times. It’s not just strength. I have 8ish miles of cardio everyday too that I need to be able to do.

So yeah, no training, but I went and did all of the upper body machines, which was a pretty good burn. I totally felt it Tuesday, that’s for sure. I only did one set on each of the machines, but it came out to about 4,500 pounds lifted in total.

The locks are still busted at work so I had to wait about 30 minutes for security to get over to me and unlock the door so I could finally get inside to have food and water. Much lame. I super hope it gets fixed soon. Not being able to get to my stuff really bothers me, and adds 30 minutes to my routine which should only take about 5 minutes.

I forgot to use RunKeeper for my ride from the gym to the school, but lucky I have set up all of the different rides I’ve done as routes, so I was able to add the ride easily to my tracker.

Once I got set up in the Shading and Lighting lab I emptied my computer trashcan which hasn’t been done in a while. I went through my personal email and got caught up on that, most notably was the challenge writing that I didn’t do over the weekend.

I wrote my daily post to recap the weekend. That took a bit of time since so much happened, especially on Sunday what with all of my shopping adventures and stuff.

I started working on my weekly recap, but wasn’t able to finish it before going to a meeting with Bre and Clavan. They have started a little group with a few other people to show things they are tinkering with. Clavan is making a mini arcade system and had all of the buttons and joy sticks for it. He even had the wooden box that is going to house all of the components. He let Bre and I plug some of the connections in so we could see how easy it was to wire everything up. It was really nifty.

Bre is working with something called a lily pad. It’s basically lights that you can stitch into fabric, which is why she really wanted me to come to this meeting. They actually worked the meeting around my schedule so I could be there.

Bre is trying to prototype the lily pad to read from a heart rate monitor. That way the lights pulse with a person’s heart. She is going to incorporate it into a costume she is making for a cosplayer. I can’t wait to see what she does with it. I think it’s a great idea and that it has a lot of potential.

That took a while though, and to be honest I felt a bit out of place. I don’t have anything ‘techy’ that I’m working on. I cross stitch, and while, yeah, I could use the lily pad to make my designs cooler, like adding lights for the eyes of my dragons and stuff, I sort of don’t want to. I like that my main craft at the moment doesn’t have any tech in it at all. It lets me unplug and not worry about higher level thinking. I appreciate Bre thinking about be, but I don’t think I’m really going to explore that avenue anytime soon, and part of me feels bad about that.

I left after about 30 minutes so I could get food. I went to Crispers for soup again. I called my mom so we could chat for a bit. She’s doing well. My older brother’s dog has a mass on his lungs, so he’s not doing all that hot. I had a department meeting to discuss the changes going on at school that I had to get to, so I told my mom I would call her back with details on that. I also told her about signing up for the Warrior Dash officially, which she already knew about because Facebook can’t keep secrets… And how I was nervous about my certification exam this Friday.

But yeah, that was a nice little chat.

I went to the meeting which was a lot of being talked at, rather than open, collaborative discussion. It felt like a waste of time. “This is what the change is. This is what the change isn’t. You have to make new content to support this change because we’re not going back to the way things were.”

There was no apology for the lack of communication. There was no apology for leaving us in the dark and unprepared for this.

It was “Suck it up and soldier on.”

The roll out for this change was so bad that they are going and changing what it is called since “Blended Learning” has a negative connotation to it… No shit it does. The students had no forewarning that the whole system was going to change. You haven’t provided any statistical proof that this change will be beneficial, and the classes were so unprepared for it that this whole month has been a giant cluster fuck.

Yes. I want an apology, an official one, from the school, not my supervisor, or his supervisor, or even his supervisor’s supervisor. I want one from the president admitting that this was a fuck up. I want one not only for myself and the unneeded stress it has caused me, but also for my co-workers, who happen to be friends and family members to me. You don’t get to screw with the people I care about and not piss me off. This isn’t fair, and this isn’t the first time that it’s happened.

And we still don’t have a full sized fridge for our food, so don’t sit there and say that the school “cares about it’s staff” when it clearly doesn’t. It’s like it goes out of it’s way to pick on us to see how far it can push everyone before they go postal or quit. Seriously, these changes make me think of a kid with a magnifying glass torching ants for fun. It’s not cool, and I’m tired of getting burned.

Rarw…

Now that that’s out of my system.

That’s how my day at work ended. And to top it off it looked super stormy outside and I was worried about getting caught in some typical torrential Florida down pour. So I ended up leaving my backpack at school and biking home literally as fast as my poor worn out legs would let me.

I showered and ate once I got home. Not surprisingly it didn’t rain at all.

Zane had messaged me asking if I wanted to go out for sushi. Technically he was supposed to pay for the dinner with Dan and Rachel last week, but since he check didn’t come in on time, I ended up covering it. He wanted to take me out for a nice night on his dime.

I was down for that.

So when he got home I had already and the clothes put away and was dressed so we headed out. We had the same server we have gotten the past few times we have gone. She’s super nice and is actually a student at the school. I found out she’s in the creative writing degree.

Since she’s sort of nerdy Zane had invited her to the Pathfinder game he was supposed to run last Saturday but she ended up being busy and was unable to go.

Zane was flirting super hard with her. I didn’t have a problem with it when it was light and playful in the beginning, but the more it went on the more uncomfortable I felt. The more third wheel-ish I guess. And I was super tired while they were both being social. I wanted a quiet dinner and to go home and sleep. Not to feel stuck watching him chat up another girl.

I don’t mind Zane looking for other chicks. I really don’t. And I feel like I keep saying that and then coming back with clauses and fine print. But if you’re going to take me out and make it seem like a date then please don’t try to pick up someone else?

Zane ended up getting really upset with me when I wanted to leave. It carried over into Tuesday morning which resulted in an email from him saying that I’m manipulative, and jealous, and that he didn’t want to talk to me about it when he got home because he knew that I would deny it.

He made a lot of statements in his email that hurt. A lot. And I spent a majority of my morning crying. His words felt like slash marks across my chest. At the end he listed off events that were going to happen once I got home. It felt like an ultimatum. If I couldn’t provide this perfect night then we would be over, or we would fight more.

All of this before my eight hour shift which I still had to bike to get to, and then bike back from, on my “hard” day. I had to be this perfect, social, happy person when I all I really wanted to do was stay at school curled up one of the desks because at least there it’s quiet. At least here I can seclude myself away and not have to answer questions, or listen to someone ask me over and over again if I’m ok when I’m fine, but I guess I’m doing something wrong because there’s this need to ask “are you ok?”

I didn’t want to go home. At all. Even before I left home I was dreading having to come back.

Even Clavan noticed that I was down, commenting on that I was quieter than normal. I said I was tired and then deflected further concern by asking about how lecture went.

I cross stitched for most of the first lab. My shift last night actually wasn’t all that bad. I wonder if everyone was picking up on how not ok I was. I got all of the stitching for Clavan’s project done along with figuring out the lettering and stitching that. So all that is left is the backstitching around the dragons now. I want to get that done today, but we’ll see.

During the second lab I was able to finish working through the exam booklet for my certification test on Friday. I’m nervous about it. I still want to find some forums and get as much insider information as possible before I take it. I also want to email my contact again to make sure I don’t need to bring anything with me other than money and my first born child since my student loans already took my soul…

I’m glad that I was able to get through all of the booklet though. I had been worried that I wouldn’t have the time this week to do it, which would only add to my anxiety over the test. I would have felt unprepared, but I’ve done everything that I’m “supposed” to do to prep for it.

I did end up going home instead of staying at school and hiding. Zane had made the cheddar broccoli soup, so when I got home I showered, ate, and after we talked for a bit went to sleep.

Even though in his email he said he wouldn’t mention anything about it, how he had said his peace, he did bring it up.

When he asked if I had anything I wanted to say I said no. Because I honestly don’t right now. I feel like if I say anything I’ll be being “manipulative”. I said I was sorry. And that was it. I didn’t want to engage in much of anything last night, which is why I went to sleep so early. I was done. When I’m asleep it doesn’t hurt.

He wanted to cuddle and touch, but I didn’t. I felt hurt still. And he was the source of the hurt this time. It wasn’t the situation. It wasn’t finances. It was him. His words. It was a pain I hadn’t thought I would feel and I guess that’s what made it so hard that morning reading his email. I didn’t think I would ever feel those feelings in this dynamic. I thought it was different, but it doesn’t feel different right now. It’s sobering.

Zane woke me up around midnight. I couldn’t get back to sleep so I went out to the living room. The space was nice. Being alone was nice. Emotional silence. Eventually I was able to go back to sleep. My alarm went off at 5:45 so I could unload the dishwasher, then load it again. The kitchen was a disaster and I left it that way last night. Too bad I need a clean kitchen to cook my breakfast.

This morning Zane slept in a bit instead of waking up to cook his breakfast and lunch. He said he was going to buy stuff today. That meant that we didn’t interact much this morning.

And since I want to write a daily post for today I guess that’s where I’ll end my recap so I have a clear line of where to start writing tonight.

I’m still hurt. But it’s more of a bruised feeling right now. I feel like his email changes things. I feel like I’ve been pushed away and so now I want to stay distant. An observer. A by stander. A roommate. I don’t feel like being close right now and that’s going to cause a downward spiral where I don’t provide what he wants / needs so he go elsewhere for it, which makes me pull further away. And maybe this is all inside of my head, but right now I am in a very detached spot where I sort of don’t care.

When I think about the situation I remember the email. I remember how it hurt to see that he thinks I’m not letting him have friends. How he said I lie about being jealous. How he dictated how last night was going to go rather than saying he would like it if it played out that way. It had to go his way or else sort of a vibe. I remember negativity right now, and I associate the room, the apartment, with that negativity because that’s where I was when I read the email. I associate the negativity with him because it was him, his words.

It makes me wonder if I am manipulative and jealous. Is it too much to ask to not see you trying to court someone else when I thought we were on a date? And maybe that’s my fault. Maybe it was just us hanging out as buds. That it wasn’t a date, and I have this silly romantic notion inside my head. Maybe the issue is me.

It makes me think about how he said we were going to break up eventually anyway because that’s what I wanted. I want to end up living alone again. And I do. In my perfect world, my fantasy land where I picture myself in the future, I’m alone. I’m sitting, looking out of a window on a warm summer day, the grass bright green, the sunlight filtering down through oak leaves. I’m breathing in the scent of the earthy world around me. I’m listening to the insects. There aren’t neighbors or kids running round. Just grass and trees, and silence. No other people. That is my calm. That is my peace. And ultimately that’s what I want.

It leaves me feeling that maybe the kinder thing, for both of us, is to end it. He wants to move out to California for Nic anyway. Maybe we should be just roommates since that’s the best part about our dynamic. We function well as a unit when it comes to life stuff. Responsibility, bills, meal planning, chores. We think along the same lines with stuff like that.

Maybe, after reading his email and seeing how he feels like I am stifling him and being unsupportive, it would be better to distance ourselves from the romantic aspect of our dynamic.

All I know is I can’t pretend to feel it. I feel like it was beaten up pretty bad, and if it is even able to recover, that it’s going to take a while. I know that I’m not going to want to go out for sushi with him again. It’s tied too closely with these feelings, which sucks because I actually really liked that place.

Weekly Saga 002: 11/02 – 11/08

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Still plucking away at this guy. I created my own Illustrator file based on the template I have been using online. I still need to go in and do a few things, change a few fonts, and create a few vector images, that way there’s less text stabbing at my eyes, but I’m happy with the direction it is going.

And next week should be on track for starting the budget tracking. That will be great so I can get rid of the “Coming Soon” lameness that has been present for the past three weeks.

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Daily Post 034: Weekend Fun

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I didn’t write over the weekend even though I wanted to. I would get to the end of the day and just not have it in me. I went to sleep at 9pm last night…

Seriously? 9pm… That hasn’t been my bedtime since like… high school. But it was so good to sleep. So good that I ditched from the Pathfinder game early to go cuddle with my pillows.

But enough about that. Let’s go back to Saturday and work forward.

Brain Dead Saturday

Zane and I ended up doing all of our grocery shopping Saturday morning. We stopped at the new produce store first just to poke around, but we both really liked it. We ended up getting most of our shopping done there, including a few extra things like quail eggs.

We still had to hop across the street to Publix, but it was really nice getting everything taken care of. We unloaded the car and started putting all of the food away. Zane butchered the burger that we got so we could have premade burger patties for lunches. He also cut up the London broil (I think that’s what it was) into steak sized pieces.

Once that was taken care if it was time to take him to the hookah lounge for the game he was trying to run. One of the chicks he has been talking to on OkCupid was supposed to be there, but she bailed last minute. That’s super lame in my book, and I think that burnt the bridge she had with Zane.

Another one of the players wasn’t able to make it, and both his brother and the other guy were going to be a little late. It didn’t seem to be going the way that Zane wanted, but we were both holding out that it would be a good experience.

When we got to the lounge it wasn’t open yet. Uke got there sortly after we did, so I offered to buy everyone lunch from the Chinese shop right next to the lounge. By the time our food was ready the lounge was open so we went inside to eat.

I stayed with Zane and Uke for a bit instead of rushing around to try to do the shopping that I wanted. I really didn’t feel like being in a time crunch. I wanted to be able to enjoy my time and it didn’t seem like that would be able to happen Saturday. Lame.

But there wasn’t anything wrong with waiting until Sunday. The day wasn’t ruined, just a little different, and different doesn’t mean bad.

I left Zane with Uke to head back home to get ready for work at 1pm. I wasn’t going ot have to pick Zane up from the lounge because Uke had his car, so that was nice.

When I got to the apartment I realized that I didn’t have my apartment key on me because I’ve been keeping my key in my biking bag, and Zane had his key with him so he could get in when Uke brought him home. I was so close to being frustrated when I realized my mess up, but before I jumped to conclusions of being locked out I went ot the front of the apartment.

Since we’re on the second story we have a little balcony off of the kitchen with stairs that lead down into a courtyard. That’s the door we normally use. I was hoping that our front door was unlocked, for whatever reason. And wouldn’t you know it was? Huzzah! I could still get into the apartment without having to drive all the way back and get the key from Zane!

I had about 30 minutes of free time which I spent curled up in bed. I needed a little bit of recovery time from the shopping earlier in the day. Going to a new place really took it out of me, and then talking with Pat, one of the owners at the lounge was more social time, and chatting with Uke… I needed a break before going into work.

I wasn’t really all that recovered by the time I had to get going though, and I knew that didn’t bood well for the day.

The first lab was super rough. My brain felt like goo by the second hour and I still had six to go. Not good.

I was supposed to call a buddy during my break at 4pm, but I couldn’t. I didn’t have it in me to talk to anyone. Instead I went to Subway since it was away from the campus. I was hoping it would be fairly quiet, which it was. I wish I had taken headphones with me so I could have listened to my own music, but all in all it wasn’t a bad experience.

I came back to the second lab, which was also brutal, but I survived it.

Frank had offered for me to come hang out and play Cards Against Humanity with him and a few other people. I even got the green light to bring Zane if he wanted to come, but I was so tapped out on the energy scale that I couldn’t do that either.

I arranged to chat with my friend on Sunday, and apologized to Frank for not being able to make it. But I think he knew it would play out like that. He knew I was working and that my labs have been pretty demanding this month. He sent me a picture of everyone setting around the table waving at the camera and said that they missed me. Warm fuzzy feels.

I ended up going straight home, not even writing. Zane had already cooked dinner when I got inside the apartment. An amazing piece of rare steak waiting to be devoured. Which it was. It was amazing.

I played Chime for a little bit, but ended up going to sleep not long afterwards. Super tired, and my brain didn’t want to function anymore.

Game Day Sunday

Sunday started pretty early. Guess I’m conditioned for it now. I was making my coffee when Zane came out and said that he wanted to take us out for breakfast. That we could do that first and then go do all of the play shopping that I had wanted to do Saturday but never did.

I was down for what sounded like an awesome, low key, quality time type day.

We had breakfast and Einstein Brothers. It’s a bagel shop. I had never been there before, and it was pretty crowded but Zane let me hug on him and told me what he liked and what he didn’t. I ended up having a Tasty Turkey, and it was actually pretty good. I’m not a huge fan of cucumber so I took that off my sandwich but everything else was great.

From breakfast we went to Travel Country to look at shoes, but we forgot that it was Sunday, and that most businesses have different hours on the weekends. They didn’t open until noon, so we had a couple hours to kill before we could do anything about my shoes. We tried the bike shop, but they still had 30 minutes until they opened…. So much lame… Why is Sunday so uncool? ;-;

We ended up going to a new smoke shop that just opened to check it out. We didn’t like it as much as “our” smoke shop, so we didn’t get anything, but it was still nice to go and see it. We used the last of our mint shisha the other night, which is why we had gone to the shop. But since we didn’t like it we didn’t want to buy anything from them.

We headed back out to the shop we normally go to, only to find out that they didn’t have the mint flavor we wanted. XD

Why, Universe?

It wasn’t all that bad though. The associate called another store in the chain and asked if they happened to have the flavor we were looking for. They did. Score!

Before we went there we went to Publix and picked up some tuna lunches for me. The store had been out when we were shopping on Saturday. That was a super quick trip though.

The second smoke shop had what we wanted. I ended up getting two other boxes of shisha since they had a deal; 3 for $10. By then the bike shop was open so we went back there.

The associate who helped us out was super friendly and knowledgeable. He explained the price difference between the helmets to me. He asked what I was mostly doing with the bike, and explained which helmets would be best for me. He didn’t try to push the most expensive one. He tried to sell me what he thought would be best. I appreciated that.

He also helped me with my concerns with the lights on my bike not being bright enough. He showed me what they had, which ones were what, and the prices. I will most likely be buying those next paycheck. It’s nice to know all of the information for them and to have talked to someone else who bikes to and from work. He gave me information from his personal experience rather than a sales pitch.

It was a really good experience and reaffirmed my opinion of the store. They’ve been great to me so far, so I’ll keep going there.

The helmet I got isn’t red, but it’s the next best thing. Black and purple. : )

It’s not a giant skater helmet. It’s so much lighter, too. I don’t have 5 pounds sitting on my skull anymore. It’s great and I love it. I wore it out of the store like a dork, but that’s ok. It made Zane smile. And seeing him smile made me happy.

It was late enough for Travel Company to be open, finally, so off we went.

I didn’t like that sales associate as much, but I did find a pair of Vibrums that I loved. Instead of going with a crazy funky color I went with black and gray. Most of my workout gear is black, purple, or blue so I figured it was better to keep with the same color scheme. I know it doesn’t matter, but I like matching. It makes me feel better.

Travel Company didn’t have any bandanas that I liked, but I was looking at the Buff website and figured I would be buying them online anyway. With dropping $170 on shoes it was sort of irrelevant. Even if the store had bandanas that I wanted I most likely wouldn’t have bought them. I hadn’t been expecting to spend that much on my shoes.

Worth every penny.

I wore them this morning while biking and working out at the gym. Wore my new helmet, too. So much awesome.

Anywho, with all of the shopping done I offered to pick us up lunch before heading home. We went to Pitta Pit for gyros, which we took home. We watched an episode of The Flash while we ate. I also started a load of laundry. One of John’s cats got into our room at some point and marked the clothes I had just washed. So much frustration…

We smoked a shisha mix of guava, honey, and rose while watching another episode. It is a very dark and earthy flavor mix. I really enjoyed it. I’m not big on all of the fruity flavors that most people do. That might be why I like mint so much too. There’s a cool bite to it.

I did end up talking to my friend later in the day. We talked for about an hour before we both had to go. I’m going to try to call him again later today so we can talk about something other than my work. We didn’t get into any of the girl talk that we really wanted to.

I prepped most of the veggies for our dinners this coming week. Zane is going to be making broccoli cheddar soup in soup bowls. We still have steaks as well that we are going to cook green beans and potatoes with. I made a batch of egg mix as well so breakfast would be taken care of, along with a package of bacon.

At 6 the Pathfinder game started. Uke brought Taco Bell with him and Zane got pizza for Danielle, Trevor and himself so there was tons of food.

My character ended up being a total badass in battle. We’re still in the dwarven tombs, exploring and looking for this wizard dude. We went into one of the rooms and there were coins strewn on the ground around a corpse. Knox, Zane’s character, told me to go pick up the “shinnies” and to try to give some of them to another one of the party members as a way to try to make friends with him.

As a goblin, most of the party doesn’t like me. It doesn’t help that my character is a pretty chaotic character. Think of a six year old. Short attention span, and I want to play, with everything. Especially if it is shinny or makes noise.

So I bounced around picking up the shinnies. When I got them all up I gave half of them to Bret, who only took a quarter of them. I kept the rest of the shinnies because they’re mine. Rawr.

There were two metallic sort of chain like curtains over two doorways in the room. There was also a statue with a dwarvish inscription in the room as well. I wanted to clime on the statue, but Bret climbed on it first. So I climbed on him instead.

Bret is sort of like the Joker from Batman. Totally insane and does random things for no reason. At least my character has an excuse.

When Bret lost interest and got off the statue my character became bored, so she hopped off Bret and went to play with the shinny curtain. The rattling drew the attention of some crypt scorpions. They weren’t all that much of a challenge for our party though. I killed one in a single blow, stabbing it with a tusk I had gotten from one of the monsters we had killed earlier. I seriously messed up another one, but another party member killed it off.

Yeah… my character is pretty brutal and barbaric.

After combat things sort of slowed down. People were looting stuff, investigating stuff… I was so tired from the busy adventurous day with Zane that I ended up going to sleep early.

I woke up when Zane came to bed, but I wasn’t able to fall back asleep. I eventual fell back asleep on the couch. I woke up congested. I’m worried I’m getting sick so I took Dayquil before I had breakfast, but other than that and being a bit tired, my day is off to a great start.

And that’s been the recap of my weekend.

Mentally brutal Saturday, super fun and expensive Sunday. All in all, both good days.

Musing Moment 0073: Days 24 – 27

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It has been a while since I did anything with my challenge writing. Guess it’s time to get caught back up.

Day 24 – Time Management

One of my biggest time sinks was Facebook, which is why I was trying to delete the stupid thing. I would waste time scroll through looking at pointless comments from people that I didn’t really consider my friends. I had so many other things I could be doing, but for some reason I was always sucked into sitting there.

It would start out as needing to respond to a message, or reply to a post from a work buddy. Something legit. But all too fast it would dissolve into thirty minutes of wasted time. And most of the time I never got around to doing what I had actually logged into Facebook to do.

I was sick of it. Of all of the social media noise that I had going on in my life. I’ve removed over half of the “friends” that I had. That has reduced the noise considerably on my Facebook feed. I have also gotten rid of several other social media accounts, which has also helped to de-clutter my life.

I’m sure it could be better, but I also feel like I have gained much more of my time back. I like where I’m at currently, so for now I will label this as a success and keep on keeping on.

Day 25 – Celebrating My Success

Day 25 in the challenge has us look back and realize everything we have accomplished and figured out in our lives. Chalene wants us to write about our biggest, proudest moment, and then promise ourselves that we will celebrate it.

Well, my proudest moment was towards the beginning when I actually sat down and figured out things that I wanted to start accomplishing with my life again. My biggest moment was not letting depression win.

I’ve already celebrated this triumph this past weekend. I went out and got my new running shoes and a spiffy awesome new biking helmet. It was more money that I thought it would be, so I haven’t gotten the bandanas I wanted, but it was totally worth the extra spending and I absolutely love the new gear that I rewarded myself with.

I’ve wanted the new shoes for so long now, and the helmet, while it wasn’t a “need” gives me warm fuzzy feelings every time I put it on. I’m not going to feel guilty. I’m allowed to have things that make me better and help push me further. I’m worth investing in. My accomplishments are worth celebrating. Guilt free.

Day 26 – Affirmation

Day 26 we take a look at our priorities, goals, and values again and reaffirm to ourselves why we are making changes in our lives.

I’m doing this for my emotional health. I’m doing this because I deserve to be happy. I deserve to be a priority to myself. I am doing this because I’m worth it.

I AM a priority and I will keep working towards the goals that I want, not what other people say I should want.

Day 27 – Fixation

Sometimes we’re our own roadblocks. Sometimes we fixate on a negative thing, a negative outcome, and so we stop moving forward. We can’t move past this “thing” inside our brain, this fixation we have.

What is my fixation?

At the moment I do not think I have one. I’m focusing on my Warrior Dash. I’ve never done this before and so all I feel is the awesome forward movement of kicking it up a notch at the gym. I’m feeling good from biking everyday to work. I just did my first workout on the machines, lifting weights, in I don’t know how long. It’s a good burn, lots of endorphins.

I’m not scared. At least not yet.

I think as the date of the race gets closer I will begin to worry about not being ready enough. Not being good enough. And when that time comes I will have to remind myself that it doesn’t matter.

It honestly, truly doesn’t.

I’m not going this to be the best. I’m not doing this to finish the race and complete every obstacle. I’m doing this to prove that I can. That even if I don’t run the whole thing, or make it over every obstacle, that I have come so far. So incredibly far, and that I should be proud of simply having the balls to participate.

I shouldn’t worry about the outcome or the destination. I should simply enjoy the process, the journey, because that’s what it’s really about.